I have been in the midst of a transformation of sorts. For friends who have known me a long time, they will recognize it as my once a decade tendency to shake things up. I did it in my 20’s and my 30’s so it should not come as a surprise it is happening again in my 40’s. The catalyst this time, too many deaths in a short period of time. It made me stop and think about what I have done with my life so far, but more importantly what I want to do with my life going forward. After all I can’t change what has past, but the future is full of possibility. I have often said I plan to live to be 100, I recently changed that to 108, I have decided I want to see America’s 300th birthday, after all I remember the 200th, the summer before my 8th birthday.
So what do I want the next 61 years to look like? I am not completely sure, but I do know I want to fill each day with people who matter not things. I want to travel again, I used to do a lot more of it. I want to spend more time doing social things with fun and interesting people and treasure the tried and true friends of which I am blessed to have many. I want to be a light in the world, give more than I take, to see the best in others and celebrate the blessings that are in the everyday. I want to forgive and be forgiven, I want to meet all challenges with love, compassion and can-do spirit. The really beautiful thing about transforming this time Is being over forty which brings with it the advantage of being comfortable in my own skin. I have re-lit my inner light, I don’t think it really went out, it was just down to a flicker because I did not tend it. Lately it seems it has gone from a lone candle to a roaring bonfire.
The outward signs are new clothes, refreshed make-up and the joy I am told I emanate on a daily basis, despite anything negative that swirls around, professional or personal. Even my boss has complimented me on my attitude. My new red boots are a symbol of the inner confidence and positive attitude I feel. How I came to get them is a bit of serendipity. I came upon them quite by chance, fell immediately in love and then it got even better, a sale and an extra discount just available that day! I swear I could hear Darius Rucker singing in my head. If ever a girl was meant to have a pair of boots . . . pure serendipity.
I am still grounded by my values and my faith, I would even say my faith has given me the freedom to transform to be more and the assurance the path to do so will be travelled with me by my better angels. The future holds great things, hopefully a writing career to transition into as my teaching years eventually draw to a close (sometime in the next decade). But more than a career path or the gains the future holds, I want to make sure I don’t lose what this moment in time has given. I do not want to slip back into complacency by going through the motions or settling for less than what is possible. Each day is a gift whether I have a few more or thousands more to live. I want to put on my red boots, walk with some sass in my step and kick myself forward. So grateful for this wondrous life and the opportunity I have each day to live it fully with love.